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Philosophy Lesson #1

Just going to start posting a few blogs here and there when I can squeeze some time in this tight schedule about my perspectives on some interesting subjects. I am very interested in the human interaction between male and female, such as attraction, and anything under that roof.

Me and my homeboy were just talking on a typical Sunday night when he started to bring up the topic of relationships. Not that I fully understand things in that department, but it’s not like anyone has a clear understanding of it anyway (ie. see married couples). He asserted that what he looked for in a girl was that she had a lot of things in common, shared the same likes, dislikes, and so forth. From my point of view, I refuted this assertion with what I really looked for in a girl and without hesitation, he agreed on the points I made. Well, POINT BLANK!

Let’s see here: most guys or girls want their significant other to share similar interests, do the same things, and have the same hobbies. Why? Because it makes perfect sense that you would want your boy/girlfriend to sort of, be like you or what not. That’s okay, but the way I see it might create a mental relapse in your brain and you might agree or disagree with what I say.

See the thing is, you have to think a certain way in order to succeed and progress as an individual which is: the only person in this world that matters or is relevant to you, is well, you. You are in full control of your emotions, mental state, physical state, etc. From an objective view, it’s true. Referring back to my conversation with a close buddy of mine, I asked him why he would truly want that. My way of thinking is that, if I met a girl who shared the same interests as me and has way too much things in common wit me, I’d automatically place them as a friend because then they would be better suited that way. This is because it’ll eventually go dull or get old (it might, it might not). If attraction is there, then it will be there for as long as it’ll carry a relationship. But I mean, if your mentality was based on the fact that you wanted to grow and become a more definitive version of you and progress as an individual, then you’ll want to hear what I have to say next.

Although I would want a girl who shared some common interests with me, I would want this girl to be different from me. Different as in, she’ll have different interests as me, she’ll do different things than I do. And this is because she will give me new and different perspectives on life, make me a more open-minded person, and help me grow by experiencing new things. I mean that’s why people always say they like “different.” Because why would you want to like the same things? They would simply have nothing new to offer you, which would make it uninteresting after a while and not interesting enough to keep the attraction alive. Of course you want similarities, so that you can get along with each other, but man if I listened to the exactly same library, did the same hobbies, and so forth, I would get bored fast. This is why I would want them to be my friend, because friends can listen to the same music, read the same books, and enjoy doing things ya’ll both like. You would not progress as an individual, you would just be at the same place (on a selfish, personal level) except that you would have a significant other on your side. Not enticing enough to share a whole life with.

For me, this is my true understanding on why “opposites attract,” feel me?

“A lot of people know you, only a few people get you, and only I will catch you. Let’s just hope my mitt is big enough” - jb